When you’re ready, it will happen

This is a follow on thought to “you’ll know it when you see it” from last week. It’s about timing.

I’m a pretty organized and disciplined person. Not in everything, but more so than not. I’m perfectly capable of making myself do something, making something happen, pushing through no matter what. There’s a school of thought that thinks that’s what it takes to succeed.

Oddly enough I disagree. Sure, sometimes you have to make yourself do things and make things happen. But not always. Sometimes you have to wait for the right time, wait to be ready.

I think that knowing the difference is what it really takes to succeed. Okay, to be perfectly honest, I think that’s just one of the many wonderful things it takes to succeed, but that’s a topic for another day.

You can eat a tomato before it’s fully ripe, but it won’t have all the deliciousness that it would have had when it was ripe.

You can plant your garden too early and the tender shoots can be damaged by a late frost.

There are a thousand more examples. It’s also equally true that if you wait too long to pick a tomato, it will be spoiled or the opportunity to plant will have passed.

You want to hit the right window, the sweet spot. You want to be ready.

Waiting until you are ready is not the same as procrastinating. Oh hell no. Procrastination is active resistance, and it’s hard and uncomfortable. You can tell if you are procrastinating because you’ve got lots of inner drama about how you should be doing something, or how you just aren’t going to think about it now.

Waiting for the right time is much easier, but it doesn’t mean doing nothing. It means planning and preparing. Arranging. Doing other things to make time and space. Doing the work to be ready.

I think that’s what divine timing really means, because when it finally happens, it feels divine – as if it were meant to be, as if it were so much easier than I had thought possible. And it tastes ripe and juicy and wonderful.

Sometimes we just have to risk it and do it now. Sometimes we want to be ready. It just depends…

And remember: in all things – progress, not perfection!

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If you’d like to chat about whether you are procrastinating, or what you might want to do to get ready, send me an email and we can set something up maggie@maggiehuffman.com

I’ll know it when I see it

You tell yourself that you trust your intuition, and that you’ll know it when you see it. You’re right, of course.

But sometimes, you get that little doubt. Maybe it isn’t your intuition, maybe it’s just what you want to think. Maybe you’re fooling myself. You need more proof, or maybe you need to research some more. Or maybe you should follow someone else’s advice. Or maybe a lot of things.

Don’t worry, that’s normal. You’re human. I thought I’d share some tricks I used to learn to recognize and trust my intuition more readily.

Intuition always feels pretty good, because you are in alignment with what you know on a subconscious level – even if you haven’t processed all the data yet. Even if your intuition is giving you a warning, it feels good when you follow it, like relief from anxiety.

Find the place in your body where you feel your intuition. It’s different for everyone. I call that place my Truthfinder. When I’m not sure about something, I go there to check my intuition. The more I practice, the better I get at finding my intuition.

To find your own truthfinder, remember a time where you had a strong sense of intuition. It can be a time where you did follow or didn’t, doesn’t matter. As you remember it, do a body scan and see what you feel in your body. There’s going to be a place where your intuition is making itself known. It could be in your abdomen, or a ringing in your ears, or a vibration in your chest, or a numbness in your hands or or or. Like I said, it’s different for everyone.

Having a truthfinder is really helpful in learning to trust your intuition, especially when you are looking for proof that your intuition is right.

When you look for things, you will see them.  This means if you are looking for positive things, you’ll see them. If you are looking for negative things, you will see them. There are lots of things to see. When you look for things, you ask your brain to “see” things, and it does. It’s pretty helpful to be specific about what you’re asking your brain to seek out, because, you know, be careful what you ask for!

If you look for signs and proof, you will see them – maybe not circled in an aura of rainbow light or announced by an angelic chord –  but they will appear. Your truthfinder helps you recognize them as signs, and once you see them, you will see them everywhere.

When you see them, you will see them everywhere. You might think this is coincidence, but when you are looking for things, you are giving your brain instructions to search for something specific, and to filter out the things that are irrelevant. So it does. And you find what you’re looking for everywhere.

And remember: in all things – progress, not perfection!

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If you’d like to chat about your intuition, send me an email and we can set something up maggie@maggiehuffman.com

BS Files #9: Good enough is the enemy of great

The BS Files are kinda like the X-files – full of myths and urban legends and mysterious things. I feel that it is my duty to tackle them (occasionally). Because, you know, the truth is out there.

Case #9. Good enough is the enemy of great! Bullshit!

This myth gained popularity thanks to Jim Collins. You’ve also probably heard Voltaire’s opposite, that perfect is the enemy of good. Another myth, also bullshit. Sometimes.

Here’s the real deal: Good, good enough, mediocre, great and perfect don’t need to be enemies.

Bottom line: We don’t need more enemies. We don’t need to look at things in terms of enemies in order to understand the world or our lives better. We don’t need more black and white thinking.

Black and white thinking limits our abilities to see options. It comes out of our primitive brain, which interprets everything in terms of our survival: is it  a threat, yes or no? Friend or foe? Just using the word ‘enemy’ evokes a threat. (Can you feel that in your body? I can.)

Black and white thinking turns off access to the creative parts of our brains. It severely affects our ability to make decisions that are in our own best interest. We think we are limited, that we only have two options, and we respond with some degree of feeling trapped and stuck, maybe even with desperation.

Colorful thinking, creative thinking give us options. We can see the options already in front of us, and we can think of even more options!

Okay, so once we change the language and the way of thinking, there’s still a bit more to say on this topic.

Sometimes good enough is good enough and there is nothing wrong with that.

Sometimes perfectionism is a waste of time that really does keep us stuck.

Sometimes perfect is magical, and quite subjective.

Sometimes we are called to be great at something, but not all things.

Sometimes good is part of the journey to better.

I could almost copy and past this from a previous BS Files: “First, there is no ONE way to do anything because there is no One Size Fits All, remember? There are many ways.” Okay, not almost, because I just did.

Truth: There is no one right answer, there’s the best fit for you right now.

Truth: You get to choose if a situation calls for good, bad, good enough, greatness or perfection. You choose.

Truth: Creative thinking and choice are really good friends.

And remember: in all things – progress, not perfection!

Love and light,

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p.s.  Want help figuring something out? If you’d like to talk about it, send me an email and we can set up a time to chat. maggie@talktomaggie.com

p.p.s You might say that Jim Collins was talking about business. So what, business is just people doing stuff.

Have a topic for the BS files? Let me know and I’ll give it a go!