What’s the word I’m looking for?

I’ve been trying to figure out what’s the word for that thing, you know, the opposite of peacefulness inside our heads? I was using noise for a while, because it truly is loud. I played around with battleground and war zone but I hate violent imagery. And while there’s lots of struggle and drama involved, I don’t want to promote the concept of a war going on inside our head. I’ve decided to get rid of as much violence in my language as possible. But I’m getting off track…

I decided I’m going to coin microdrama and to me, it lives in the same family as microaggression. (In case you don’t know, microaggression is the brilliant term for the constant barrage of hostile messages  – intentional or not, verbal or not – targeting someone from a marginalized group.)

Microdrama doesn’t mean insignificant, in fact, just the opposite, and there is an insidious and compound effect.

Microdrama is where every single moment seems like an impeding crisis. Every decision you make – big or small – feels like it has monumental consequences. There is drama inherent in every just about everything.

Every potential mistake feels like failure.

Living in a state of microdrama is highly stressful and exhausting – and it’s self-inflicted.

Living in microdrama is like driving on a really bad road in a car with bad tires and bad alignment – constantly jarring, really noisy and very uncomfortable.

Microdrama does come from being out of alignment.  Your thoughts and beliefs are out of alignment with your desires and goals.

Even though you are trying to be your best self and achieve your goals and do good things in the world, you have a lot going on that makes it really difficult. You judge yourself using standards that don’t fit you. You aren’t really living by YOUR values – intentionally or not.

So yeah, that’s the opposite of peace.

And it’s totally optional.

If you knew you were heading out on a long road trip, wouldn’t you check your tires and alignment?

Maybe 2019 is a road trip.

Honestly, I didn’t think that’s where this was going when I started writing. I think that’s proof that I’m on the right track.

And remember: in all things – progress, not perfection!

Love and light,

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It’s 2019. Lots of people are setting goals, and you now what’s going to happen in a couple of months, right? There’s a different way to approach goals – one based on starting from a peaceful foundation, which is a lot like getting a thought alignment. If you want to talk about it,  email me (maggie@talktomaggie.com) or schedule a free mini session with me (here). A mini session is a short coaching session, where we can talk about the noise that’s holding you back and what you can do about it. We can set you up to succeed without struggling!

Something for your pocket

I like to be prepared. I love having things I can pull out of my back pocket when I need them. Or out of my cavernous purse.

Here’s something for your pocket or purse: a list of truly nice things to think and to say to someone. (BTW, you are a someone, too. Get it?) Here goes:

I love that about you

That’s one of my favorite things about you

You make me happy

I love how you really see me

That is such a generous thing for you to do

Isn’t that perfect?

I feel so safe with you

There is nothing I would rather be doing

Our friendship is like the world’s best pair of slippers

I’m so grateful that I know you

Your assignment, should you choose to accept it, is to go out and recognize where these are the perfect thoughts.

What are some of your contributions?

And remember: in all things – progress, not perfection!

Love and light,

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The New Year is often a time for setting goals. If you’re interested in tackling a big goal for yourself, and you want to try a different approach, email me (maggie@talktomaggie.com) or schedule a free mini session with me (here). A mini session is a short coaching session, where we can talk about the noise that’s holding you back and what you can do about it. We can set you up to succeed without struggling!

Congrats on your face

I saw the best Facebook post a couple of weeks ago. It basically said that if you want to be a beautiful person, you need to be more loving. Otherwise, you’re just pretty (or handsome), which is just saying, “hey, congratulations on your face.”

I love that so so so much.

Beauty isn’t just skin deep. Beauty doesn’t have anything to do with skin at all.

What would the world be like if young people didn’t feel the pressure of being judged by what their skin and bones and hair look like?

What would the world be like if we defined beauty by how much we love, rather than by how much we are loved?

Let’s change the world. Let’s go be beautiful.

And remember: in all things – progress, not perfection!

Love and light,

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The New Year is often a time for setting goals. If you’re interested in tackling a big goal for yourself, and you want to try a different approach, email me (maggie@talktomaggie.com) or schedule a free mini session with me (here). A mini session is a short coaching session, where we can talk about the noise that’s holding you back and what you can do about it. We can set you up to succeed without struggling!

Emotional decoder ring

I saw a really cheesy movie over the New Year Holidays. It had a great set and props and look, but the plot was horrible. One main plot point was that a kid was able to save the world because he got a decoder ring out of a jar of Ovaltine. Which made me think about two things – 1) how my experience of the movie generated conflicting emotions and 2) decoder rings.

I thought about how handy an emotional decoder ring would be – so I decided to make one. I picked 4 emotions, knowing that there are lots more. If you notice one of these emotions, use this key to see what secrets you might be able to uncover.

Discomfort means that you are living on the edge of a change, moving out of your comfort zone. Sometimes that’s a good thing because you’re about to be challenged and grow.  Sometimes it’s not, because it means that something is out of alignment with what you value or believe. You have to use your intuition to tell the difference.

Jealousy isn’t the same as envy, and it isn’t a “sin” (unless you act inappropriately). Jealousy is an indicator that you want something, but you believe that you can’t have it. It unlocks a secret, outdated belief that does not serve you. You could change what you want. Or you could change what you believe about yourself.

Guilt is the primary tool of your conscience and your moral compass to tell you that you are doing (or being, or saying or thinking, etc.) something that you shouldn’t. Problem is, it’s been hijacked and misused – a lot! Are you really a person who does so much stuff that you shouldn’t? No, you aren’t. Guilt is an indicator that you have taken responsibility for a lot of shit that isn’t yours, and it’s time to declutter.

Shame is telling you that you have bought into somebody else’s belief system about who you should be and how you should live your life – and you aren’t living up to it. The secret is to figure out who YOU want to be. Ain’t no shame in that.

Basically, it comes down to this. Own your own shit. You don’t need anybody else’s.

And remember: in all things – progress, not perfection!

Love and light,

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The New Year is often a time for setting goals. If you’re interested in tackling a big goal for yourself, and you want to try a different approach, email me (maggie@talktomaggie.com) or schedule a free mini session with me (here). A mini session is a short coaching session, where we can talk about the noise that’s holding you back and what you can do about it. We can set you up to succeed without struggling!

A book, a bag and a light bulb

I compose a lot of my blogs at night, when I’m asleep. I wake up and just have to type them up. Well, maybe polish them up a little bit, too. My intentional assistant works the night shift (remember her?)

Anyway, last night I woke up in the middle of the night thinking about wealth and abundance.

I feel like I have a pretty abundant life. I have had many amazing experiences, I’ve been to fascinating places, accomplished some incredible things, known awesome people, felt so many emotions, and experienced so many facets of the human experience. I know there is so much more to come. I’m just describing the tip of the abundance iceberg here.

On the simpler side, I can feel incredibly wealthy with these three things: lots of books to read (yay, Kindle!), plenty of zip lock baggies (I know, I need to find a sustainable version) and a package of bright light bulbs (light workers need light!). Somewhere along the way, those became my ultimate luxury items.

Silly, right? Silly that I decided that I can feel incredibly wealthy with just a few simple things. Here’s the secret. It’s not those things or any THINGS. It was that I decided that what I already had was enough to feel wealth and abundance.

The feelings of wealth and abundance are accessible to us at all times.

It doesn’t mean we can’t want to do and be and feel more. Of course we can. But wanting from a place of abundance – wanting more of what we already have AND ALREADY KNOW WE CAN HAVE – feels so damned different than wanting from scarcity.

Wanting from scarcity means not knowing if you can have what you want. It reeks of doubt and desperation.

Wanting from abundance means that you know that your dreams can come true. A bit of work, a bit of magic, lots of belief…and you wake up in the middle of the night thinking about what wealth means to you, instead of worrying.

And remember: in all things – progress, not perfection!

Love and light,

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The New Year is often a time for setting goals. If you’re interested in tackling a big goal for yourself, and you want to try a different approach, email me (maggie@talktomaggie.com) or schedule a free mini session with me (here). A mini session is a short coaching session, where we can talk about the noise that’s holding you back and what you can do about it. We can set you up to succeed without struggling!