Before you go to sleep at night, do you think over your day and evaluate it? Do you think about whether it was a good day or not? If it was a bad day, what do you do?
Here’s how I used to evaluate the day: What did I accomplish? What happened to me today? What did I do right? What did I screw up? Of course, most of the attention went to the last question. I would then spin and relive all the negative stuff and try to figure out how much damage control I had to do tomorrow.
That process did not lead to a restful night’s sleep! It usually meant tossing and turning, worrying and fretting, and lots of mental to-do list activity. and the next morning I wasn’t really refreshed, which usually meant a rinse and repeat.
But we have an inner reset button that can stop this whole cycle. Here’s how:
I decide that today was a good day. Yes, decide. Because I’m in charge.
I stack the deck by changing everything up. I start by acknowledging that today was actually a good day, then I look for the things that were great and reasons to be grateful. Who did I connect with today? What do I want more of? I decide that everything was perfect because it was just how today was supposed to be. The things that didn’t go well are not failures, they are learning experiences. I don’t just rename them. I think “what did I learn today?” until I am grateful for the lesson. It’s experiential learning, not theoretical! There’s something about gratitude and a good night’s sleep…they’re connected…
It’s amazing to be present for the whole spectrum of experience. I can’t really be present if I’m busy berating myself, so I keep it to a minimum. I love to stack the deck in my favor!
And remember: in all things – progress, not perfection!
Love and light,
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